a thought on love


Love is not about just loving the person’s good traits and characteristics. It’s about loving the whole entirety of the person, the good and the bad, the strengths and flaws. So often we miss this, or even get it in our heads that we have the right to change the person and dictate how they should be. In the same vein, when you instead choose to ignore someone’s “flaws,” you are ignoring an inextricable part of who they are.

That’s why loving someone is a lot more difficult than many would like to believe or conceptualize. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, as are flaws. Loving someone’s “good” parts is remarkably easy because there is no battle to like them, if we already do. It’s when we are called to love the “ugly” parts of someone, to completely give up our desire to control or change the person, and accept and love the entire package. That is the struggle, and by no means, simple and easy.

In my mind, the arduous feat and miracle of loving someone certainly goes underrated. Perhaps that is why love is so powerful, bewitching, healing and exceedingly beautiful to all those who give and experience it.